Relationships, And all dat good shit Options

[Ryan]

18. perfect

Same.

Still fresh.

[tuneman82]

got dumped a few days before my 30th. move along, nothing to see here.

[tuneman82]

did that totally derail the thread? dont worry- it was much worse in real life than in a post. talk about being gutted inside out. aside from losing an SO from death, it was the worse to have someone just walk away for no reason when you really need them.

im not sure i could put into words what its like for someone to tell them you make them want to slow down, settle down, and have something real, something with the potential to last forever. probably the best (and worst) thing someone had ever said to me, but then said she just couldnt right now, and, just like that, gone. to be within inches of something you worked at with someone you liked, then ??? that shit is hard to wrap your mind around. it took me weeks to come around, or say more than a few sentences. up until it actually happened, i sat around waiting for a call like jon favreau's chump character in swingers.

we had plans too, all through winter. what we'd do for holidays, where we'd go, seeing her hometown, entertain the thought of just skipping town on xmas to some beach down south, and just in general, having fun. one of the only women ive met outside of the cky-world that ever saw me for me and appreciated who i was, and not what i could do for them.

she cant ever come back and make it work either- my friends all saw the complete crushed look on my face this month, a man with broken spirit. they all hate her.

on top of that, october has brought me great things such as:

- having my first break in 3 years cancelled (75% chance) because of the hurricane coming. the house i booked in OBX? in one of the worst areas for storm surge and will be hit first. good pick. oh! and i booked it this late in the season, because it was a date that worked for her- obviously she isnt going. yet another thing she ruined besides my milestone. guess ill find out tonight or tomorrow AM if i am driving down there.

- having to move out in a hurry by nov 20th, because the place im renting that was never supposed to sell, sold, and now i have to scramble and make decisions i was neither prepared for, or did not want, to make right now

- the one thing i waited 5+ years for, to see the Stones play live and for the final time, i cant do now because of having to move. rent will probably double and/or pay for a home and i just cant afford to do both at the same time.

- having someone close shit all over your work without realizing it

awesome!

so yeah. the pain of having someone and being with them is the most god awful thing ever, but you need it.

[tonydub]

basically the same situation I had with my ex, Kev.
Glad you came around quicker than I did though.

Although I didn't believe it at the time, it is true that eventually someone/some thing better will come along and make you wonder why you even got so distraught at the last one in the first place.

[FiveintheGakht]

Swingers is a great flick.

[cKyIsYourFuture]

KQ you're so fucking money

[tuneman82]

id be lying if said i didnt spend 4 weeks drinking beer and watching sons of anarchy and doctor who when i wasnt working. i barely said a word all through my 30th party

[Red Giant]

been dating my girlfriend for 2 years. she cheated on me for the first time the other night, she keeps saying sorry. And shes saying she wants to die. Do I move on? I don't want her to kill herself or something...need help asap

[shumway]

leave her to rot.

[FiveintheGakht]

Regardless of the reason for her cheating, chances are one of you will never be able get over it and it'll lead to super duper jealousy, insecurities, and resentment down the line.

Now for the realz. Yo mans... She fucking cheated on you dawg. Aint no sorry for that shit. You gotta dump her ass to the curb and realize people make up all sorts of shit to stay with their boo. Man, I knowst one guy that told a bitch he had leukemia. Fuck that. I say, find all her best friends and fuck them all... immediately!

[afterworld12a]

I was with this one girl and I broke things off with her because she kept saying she was going to kill herself; she also was bipolar and had depression. I just got sick of her calling/texting me every night saying she wanted to die. it's been 3 months since I called things off with her. and she's not dead yet so...your girl will probably be fine. she's probably not going to kill herself...and she did cheat on you. it's probably best if you move on.

This post has been edited by afterworld12a: Mar 6 2013, 06:58 PM

[BuddDwyer]

She cheated on you before dude, this is just the first time you caught her or the first time she felt guilty. That is all. Dump the bitch. She'll b fine

[Ryan]

If you forgive her, she will think she can get away with it again.

Dump her and let her learn from her mistakes.

[dietrying]

idiots.

tell her you'll forgive her if she agrees to help fulfill your sexual bucket list. in theory, if she likes sex enough to cheat, she should be game. i'm talking like threesomes or just the kinkiest shit you can think of. then, once your bucket is complete, dump her.

is it overkill? absolutely, but nobody hurts you and gets away with it. she might think she's being overly dramatic with the whole "wanting to die" bullshit. this ain't middle school. show her nobody is more dramatic than you. you are a god among swine. never forget that. you against the world. conquer it. enjoy the ride down and move on...etc.

This post has been edited by dietrying: Mar 6 2013, 10:44 PM

[HalfwayHouse12a]

tell her you'll forgive her if she agrees to help fulfill your sexual bucket list. in theory, if she likes sex enough to cheat, she should be game. i'm talking like threesomes or just the kinkiest shit you can think of. then, once your bucket is complete, dump her.

is it overkill? absolutely, but nobody hurts you and gets away with it.

Yeah dude, I gotta say I agree. Cheating is unforgivable. You gotta move on either way. Maybe keep her on the backburner working for your forgiveness while you're off finding a replacement.

[Riona]

My boyfriend told me he would gouge my eyes out and slit my throat if I cheated on him. I think that's fair enough. Joking aside, I would leave and never look back if I was cheated on.

[Jacob]

lose the slut

[dietrying]

i would cheat on all of you.

[Riona]

Anyone here been the cheater??

[nickbosy]

Newly single after a long time. She just posted on Facebook (after we had one final longish talk at her house about us, life, etc.) "Sometimes the hardest part isn't letting go, but learning to start over." I find that to be true, I'm still struggling, but the main reason is I spent the past 5 years associating my life through someone else, as did she--so having to just stop and put the focus back completely on myself almost makes me feel lost in a way after so many years of being together, making decisions for eachother, or at least always with the other person in mind. Weird feelings. This is day 2 and some days/moments/mornings (I find that's when its at its worst for me) are worse than others, but hopefully with each passing moment I get a bit stronger, inch by inch.

[ckyMt]

Me and my girlfriend might break up tonight.

I don't know if she's thinking the same thing.

This feeling is weird.

That is all.

[dietrying]

better cheat on her before it's too late.

[Ryan]

How did you go?



With the cheating part i mean.